The true mark of maturity is when somebody hurts you and you try to understand their situation instead of hurting them back.
The first thing you need to understand is that there’s always a reason behind why you end up getting hurt, and you being hurt was a by product of that reason being played out 😦
Our initiative signals to us when somethings not right and we seek to resolve whats missing in our lives. If we try to ignore whats missing then yea it may go away for a bit, but it’s just going to keep on coming back and also start to manifest and cause disruptions in other areas of our lives.
For example a co worker who gives you a hard time (I know you can think of one right now and if you don’t have one then you’ve had one lol). Why would someone give you a hard time even though your doing your job well?? It just doesn’t make sense. It’s not you at all, it’s them. There’s some void in there life that they either don’t know how to solve or maybe they are just avoiding the problem all together, therefore it takes a different form and that form unfortunately happens to be by giving you a hard time. Which sucks but there are ways to deal with it. Firstly by you trying to understand them will make you more tolerant and see their behaviour in a less negative light. Secondly just talk to them, get to know them a little and you’ll be surprised and how quickly your relationship with that person will change. Us humans crave companionship so reach out to them from a place where your intentions are pure and they will express to you whats really making them the way they are. 😃
“always try to understand”.
The same principle applies here. Well of course unless you cheated on them and they cheated back out of retaliation, so it will be a case of them just wanting you to understand the pain that you caused them but two wrongs don’t make a right, right?
Anyways, so understanding someone who cheats on you whilst your being faithful. You being hurt is a by product of them cheating, they didn’t cheat with the intention of hurting you (unless it’s the circumstance I stated earlier) you just got caught up in the cross fire. You need to realise its not necessarily something that your doing but more likely that the other person doesn’t know what they want or they are so used to their old habits of having attention from more than one person that it’s hard to let go of. The way to deal with this one is to be together in a relationship or don’t, but don’t allow things to continue that make you unhappy or you could end up being that horrible co worker lol see how this works.
“always try to understand”
Finally I just want you to remember to be patient with one another because everyone is facing their own battles. And just as your own battles are the most important to you, so are theirs to them.
Hope you enjoyed reading and have taken something away from it.
Sending lots of love