Making Peace WIth your PAST
That person may not directly be a part of your life but what happens when;
You cross paths with that person?
You hear that persons name?
You cross paths with someone that reminds you of that person?
I could carry on all day with different types of examples, the fact of the matter is most of them happen at the unconscious level so we’re not even aware when they’ve been triggered. And once that trigger has been fired releasing those memories, right alongside those memories is its tag team partner…… EMOTIONS.
Let’s just summarise this sequence.
Takes a deep breath* So there’s a stimulus at an unconscious level that has fired the trigger connected to your memories which has caused the response to release these trapped emotions so your mood that day is fluctuating and you have no idea why…….CRAZY
Trust me when I say you really don’t want to go through the rest of your life trying to deal with every stimulus connected to that person. The memories will never change but you can change your interpretation of them and the way you respond to them.
The first step is to find a way to get in touch with that person. Do it face to face if you can, on the phone or if you have no contact for that person then find a quiet place (preferably outdoors) and have that internal conversation with them. Avoid doing via email or text because it leads to all kinds of miscommunication (topic for another blog, another time).
The second step is to have that conversation, get everything off your chest that you want to say, ask all the questions that you want to ask. Bear in mind that you may not like the answers but just accept them as they are. And as much as you may feel you hate that person for the way they treated you in the past or the way they continue to treat you, your end result is to make internal peace.
Remember in the back of your mind “everyone reacts to things differently and as logical as something may seem to you, it wasn’t and still may not be to them. Humans make the best decisions we feel right at the time, no one aims to make a wrong decision”.
Why? Because everything they have had to deal with has mentally prepared them for the battle of life. So from deep inside your heart I want you to look them in their eyes and say “thank you”.
You’re going to find this hard and the sheer thought alone of doing this may put you off, It’s out of your comfort zone so you will feel some resistance towards it, it’s normal.
Also if this person is a part of your life now and they display actions that have once hurt you then you now know that it’s only making you stronger and they probably just like you, need to make peace with their past. Their actions towards you is just the strategy they’ve developed over many years of dealing with life, it’s not personal.
On that note thanks for reading my blog, I hope it’s helped in some way. If you have any questions then feel free to comment or email me and I’ll be glad to answer them :)
MAKE THE PEACE!!