4 stage relationship pyramid

4 Stage relationship pyramid

To meet someone who is right for you, you have to go through what i like to call "The 4 Stage Pyramid".

Stage 1- Physical Appearance
This is the top of the pyramid, the tip, the cherrie on top. This shouldn’t be the be all or end all, but it counts for something. This is whats initially going to attract you towards someone. This is whats going to make you start that conversation, send that message, email, etc, whatever it is to get that other person to acknowledge your existence.

Stage 2- Hobbies and Interests
This is just a little bit further down the pyramid. You’ve established that your attracted to each other or at least curious to get to know one another so you start to engage in small talk.

You know the basic questions; what food do you like, do you like sports, what do you do in your spare time, etc. Real basic stuff to see if there are any similarities in activities, something you could do together and both enjoy it (a date).

Stage 3- Personality
Now your getting deeper down that pyramid, it’s starting to widen out and you have more of it to view. You've found common interests through your conversations and have started dating. It’s on these dates when they’re in their comfort zone when you really start to get in to their personality ethic. What makes them laugh?, what are they like around you?, do you gel together? Are they happy within themselves? etc.

Stage 4- Beliefs and Values
This is the base of the pyramid, the roots, the foundation, this is whats going to hold everything above it together so it doesn’t fall to pieces. This is thee most important and is not a stage to be taken lightly. After you’ve been talking and dating for a while small talk needs to become big talk. Not big talk as in marriage or kids, but as in goals, ambitions, where do they see their path going, what are their views on what makes a good relationship, current affairs, and so much more. You won’t find out or even like everything, but there is a lot you should find out before committing yourself into a relationship with that person. Beliefs and values are deeply embedded and rarely ever change so if you have beliefs that mean a lot to you but go against that persons beliefs, then you both have some serious thinking to do.

you dont have to get as deep as this pic, but there's no harm if you do 😂😂

The problem with this era
We’ve become to sexually orientated. Through television, adverts, celebrities, music videos, the whole of social media. We’re bombarded with images that shouldn’t be acceptable, but are now acceptable in every angle. This pushes up our sex drive (look at our world population spike).
So now we have a highly sex driven generation who through social media has direct access to instantly message whoever they like. And when your acting in that way your only in the early stages of stage 2 on the pyramid and you’re having sex already. Sex causes feeling and attachment to that person, so now you’ve got feelings involved and a sense of attachment to someone who you really don’t know at all 😪

Go through the stages and get to know that person first 👍